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How to Choose Your Goals for Creative Visualization

One of the key aspects of using creative visualization successfully is knowing how to choose your goals. This helps building the confidence required for using the techniques successfully.

If the goal is too easy, you may not appreciate the true value of your visualization efforts & take it for granted.

If on the other hand your chosen goal is too difficult and you fail, you may be led to believe that visualization doesn't work. 

Creative visualization does work, you just need to know the right way to use it :-)

In this post we talk about the art of finding the appropriate goal for your first visualization exercises. It's the art of knowing how to choose your battles. As far as I'm concerned, it's an effort to always find a balance between underestimating myself and being overconfident. The right place to be is somewhere in between these 2 extremes.

Personally I was blessed (and maybe a little lucky) to be successful on my first visualization attempts and this has given me a great confidence boost. Of course, initial success made the next few goals easy as well, and by the time I got too greedy I had managed to enjoy a great streak. Luckily though, when I failed my first goal I had already built a reservoir of faith strong enough to keep me going.

Visualization "experts" seem to agree on a number of things to keep in mind when setting your goals. Let's have a look at them one by one:

1) Desire

Your goal must be something you truly want for yourself. 

It's completely pointless to work on a goal that means absolutely nothing to you, like for instance "I want the first person I meet tomorrow to be a man with flowers". Choose something relevant for you at the time of the exercise.

2) Belief

Your goal must be something possible. Even if your desire for something is overwhelming, you can't set yourself a goal that's reasonably impossible to reach (like spending a full day on the Sun or meeting Jack the Ripper). You must be able to answer the question: "is it humanly possible to achieve this goal?" with a resounding YES.

3) Expectancy

Jose Silva talks about the element of "positive expectation" in "The Silva Mind Control Method". He says that this is a subtle rule that may look difficult at first but it's going to make sense after you practice a few times. I completely agree with him on this.

The idea here is that you should actually expect your goal to become reality. Not only hope for its achievement, or think that it's possible, but actually be able to "see it" happening
Let's take an example.

For instance, you may be currently trying to lose weight and get in shape. Let's say you're struggling a bit overall, but you know you really want this for yourself and at some point in time you simply decide that you will lose, say, 12 pounds (notice the words "decide" and "will lose"). 

When you say to yourself "I will lose 12 pounds this month, end of story!", you express a clear, strong intent of achieving the goal. 

You also clearly expect that this will happen, because otherwise you would phrase it differently. Although it's not a 100% sure thing for you yet, you know that it will happen because your mind and all your efforts are set in that direction. You "see yourself" 12 pounds lighter at the end of your diet.

Now, the idea is not to choose something you know you can do at the drop of a hat. You can very well choose a goal not easy to reach, somewhat complicated, something that you've never done before. You just have to "feel" it. 

From my experience, expectancy has a lot to do with confidence - in yourself and the technique. Jose Silva suggests we should just aim lower a few times, until we are faced with what he calls "a streak of coincidences". After all, achieving one goal only is no indication that your visualization technique helped, but if you keep hitting your targets time and time again at some point you will look back and realize that perhaps you were never "that lucky" before you started with creative visualization exercises. When you understand that being "lucky" too many times in a row is actually your own efforts paying off, you're on the right track :-)

4) Acceptance

There's a profound meaning to this "rule" when you set a goal for yourself: being able to fully accept your goal being achieved, with all the consequences involved. Be careful what you wish for because it may just come true, right? 

If it does, not only you should fully accept it, but you must actually embrace the situation with all your heart. Gratitude is a double-edged sword: being grateful can work miracles for you, but if you ask for something, you get it and then you are still dissatisfied you are blocking the channel of receiving and may never get the same chance again. 

Bottom line: don't just play around. If you want something to happen make sure you truly want it and you are fully aware and happy with receiving what you ask. Life may not offer you precisely that - but sometimes it may give you better. The possibilities of creation are endless as long as you stay open (see my own guidelines below). 

5) Self-Orientation

Your mind works best when dealing with things it knows intimately. That's why goals are to be set by you, for you and involving you only

Free will is a sacred gift, a law that not even our Creator can break. Make sure you respect it. Don't  try to forcefully impose good on others, because everyone has ultimate responsibility over themselves and you can't change this state of things.

Let others use their own power on themselves. If you are genuinely concerned about others, perhaps you should concentrate on multiplying the good deeds you make, improving your attitude towards others, or increasing your contribution to those in need. If you want to share your visualization skills, do it discretely and never impose. People are in different places in life and everyone makes choices others may find hard to understand - it's the way it's always been & there's nothing we can do about it.

6) Good Intention

Everyone seems to warn against the danger of using visualization for anything other than a purely good intention

It's pretty much common sense. If your mind is occupied with thoughts that put you in a "negative" frequency vibe (bad intention towards others), you are sure to become your first "victim". I very much doubt in such a state you have much inner power to really make a change on others, but you probably have enough to harm yourself. Who says destructive visualization doesn't exist? :-) It does, but it only works against the perpetrator, apparently.

OK, this is the theory as presented by famous visualization authors. I want to end by adding a few observations of my own on the subject (especially for those of you that are just starting):

  • Choose goals that don't put you into a state of stress (like: "I must make $100 this week, or else..."). Stress cuts off your inner "connection" and a visualization session done in stress (even with all the other elements correctly in place) is unlikely to give you any results. You're better off just relaxing.

  • Don't try visualizing the winning numbers in the national lottery or any other trick to get rich overnight, for 2 reasons.
    Nr.1: you're probably not at the level of experience to go for something this big so early. Try your hand at something smaller first.
    Nr.2: visualization is not a magic wand that will bypass our need to act responsibly. Quite on the contrary: the responsibility for choosing morally "safe" goals is part of the game. I intend to write a special post on "lottery runs" because it's probably one of the first thing a rookie has in mind ("wow, can i use this to become an overnight millionaire?").

  • Expect everything from yourself, not from the exercise. Remember, it's not the technique that makes stuff happen - it's YOU. The technique is just a channel to connect you to a deeper dimension, but it's still through you that any change will arise. Assume full responsibility.

  • At firsts, choose a goal that will take a minimum 1 week to achieve. Focus each day of that week at least once on the same goal. If possible, think about the images you project during your sessions during the day, too. After 2-3 small goals you can go for shorter (and sweeter) goals.

  • Don't be rigid about your goals. If what you want is to have, say, a partner that has all the imaginable qualities you're probably thinking too much :-)
    Instead, try to visualize a moment spent with your dream partner, how you feel around him/her, get a feel of your intimacy level, "talk" to each other, smile, etc. In the end, if you must, you can have a look to see how he or she looks like... You may be in for a big surprise! :-)

This is about it for now on the subject of choosing goals. I'll go into a few creative visualization techniques next time, as some of you may be anxious to get started (which is understandable). In fact, this article is also filed into "techniques" as it contains information on how to get started. Much more to come soon - why not subscribe below and be the first to know? ;-)

As always, if you have any questions or comments please start or join the conversation - any feedback is much appreciated and I will personally answer all questions, it's a promise! :-)

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